Book Review: Love By the Numbers, by Glynis McCants

Love by the Numbers: How to Find Great Love or Reignite the Love You Have Through the Power of Numerology (Nonfiction: Self Help)

By Glynis McCants
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc., Naperville, IL
Hardback, 336 Pages, U.S. $21.99

Numerology is the study of the vibrations of numbers and how to use them to better understand ourselves and the important people in our lives. In Love by the Numbers, author Glynis McCants focuses on our relationships with spouses, boyfriends and girlfriends—our significant others. She identifies the important numbers in love connections, explains what they mean and how they relate to each other. McCants uses numerology to counsel people who want to improve their unions.

The author says we can better understand ourselves and the person we love by calculating our numbers based on the names we use in the present. Men’s names don’t generally change, but if a man goes by a shortened version of his name, such as Joseph becoming Joe, Joe would be used for the numerology blueprint. Women may also use a nickname and their last names may have changed with marriage.

Three numbers in the numerology blueprint are determined by the letters in our names: the Soul, Personality and Power Name numbers. (McCants offers a chart in which each letter of the alphabet is assigned a number. The numbers are added up, then reduced to one number.) Three numbers derive from the birth date: the Birth Day, Life Path and Attitude Numbers. The Life Path numbers are the most important in any numerology blueprint because neither partner will be happy and fulfilled unless they share compatible Life Path numbers.

Only one number is calculated using the full name on the birth certificate and that is the Destiny number. McCants answers the question, “Are you destined to be together?” She also calculates the Maturity number by adding together the Life Path and Destiny numbers and reducing them to one number.

Once the reader has calculated her and her partner’s numbers for the Numerology Blueprint, the author details how they affect each other. Natural Match numbers indicate an instant rapport. Compatible numbers mean couples get along most of the time but will agree to disagree at other times. Challenge numbers are tough; misunderstandings and communication breakdowns are common and the relationship could become toxic.

A Soul Mate is indicated when two parties share three of the six main numbers. These can be people we need to learn difficult lessons from, and those who are wonderful blessings in our lives. For any of the matches to work, McCants notes, both people must be living on the positive side of their numbers. (The positive and negative attributes of each number are given.) If addictions or mental illness are present, even Natural Match numbers are disregarded.

With each new year, we begin a new Personal Year Cycle. McCants explains that this is why couples may have been happily married for several years and suddenly hit a snag. (She makes suggestions for getting through the difficult years.) If couples have enjoyed a strong, healthy relationship prior to getting married, she recommends calculating whether a woman should take her husband’s last name when getting married. This change could strengthen or sour the relationship.

McCants explains everything from picking the best hotel room to how to pick the best wedding date—by the numbers, of course! Anyone interested in understanding the potential of a new relationship, what happened to a past or current relationship, or how to strengthen one will benefit from using the book, Love By the Numbers.