Friends Worth Fighting For

To live a life with meaning, there must be love and forgiveness. Not the kind of love that appears say, with sexual attraction or possessiveness, nor the ‘instant’ kind of forgiveness we see on TV by family members of public figures who have strayed. Love and forgiveness live deeply within our hearts and must be deeply felt to be truly expressed.

For Love to have staying power it must be committed and as close to unconditional as we can make it. Only as we age do we realize how far from perfect we ourselves are, and how full of judgments we once were and most likely still are. This is where forgiveness comes in: To forgive ourselves for the hurts we laid down, and to forgive those who hurt us, is inspired behavior. You could even call forgiveness selfish in a way, for without it, it is very difficult to maintain relationships, and what meaning is there in living a life without dearly beloved others?

There are no perfect-behaving humans, not our children, not our parents, not our boyfriends, or wives, nor our close friends. Most of us are so caught up in our own thoughts, opinions, and emotions, it is astounding that we have any friends at all. That we do is a striking sign of hope that Love is at work within us, and that in addition to seeing what a pain-in-the-rear our family members and friends are, we can also see what is good in them, and that is definitely worth fighting for, with forgiveness.


2 thoughts on “Friends Worth Fighting For

  1. Such a true and crucial message you share here Pam. Forgiveness is certainly one of the biggest spiritual challenges of them all…and one I am still learning about and have a long way to develop yet. I thought I’d share the following quote with you about Friendship…I just love its’ message and sentiment.

    “It is in the most indescribable communion of mind, the similarity of sentiment and of taste, and that jumping together of the heart upon occasions that call forth the feelings of humanity, which, combined with a sincere esteem for the virtues and and ability of our friend, and a wakeful anxiety for his welfare and happiness – these are the foundations of ardent genuine friendship, and before which benefits and obligations scarcely have a name…” (Matthew Flinders)

    • That truly is a beautiful description of friendship, Colleen. It reminds me of Jane Austen.
      Forgiveness is so hard, but one of the good things about growing older is seeing a broader picture of life, our own imperfections and how much we humans have in common–how we all tend to make the same mistakes. I guess that’s why the Ten Commandments.:)
      Now our job is to realize how much we are all loved, in spite of our human nature. It seems like growing up in a way, letting the old fall away and embracing a new way of being. And being a light is just what you are doing, dear girl.

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