To live a life with meaning, there must be love and forgiveness. Not the kind of love that appears say, with sexual attraction or possessiveness, nor the ‘instant’ kind of forgiveness we see on TV by family members of public figures who have strayed. Love and forgiveness live deeply within our hearts and must be deeply felt to be truly expressed.
For Love to have staying power it must be committed and as close to unconditional as we can make it. Only as we age do we realize how far from perfect we ourselves are, and how full of judgments we once were and most likely still are. This is where forgiveness comes in: To forgive ourselves for the hurts we laid down, and to forgive those who hurt us, is inspired behavior. You could even call forgiveness selfish in a way, for without it, it is very difficult to maintain relationships, and what meaning is there in living a life without dearly beloved others?
There are no perfect-behaving humans, not our children, not our parents, not our boyfriends, or wives, nor our close friends. Most of us are so caught up in our own thoughts, opinions, and emotions, it is astounding that we have any friends at all. That we do is a striking sign of hope that Love is at work within us, and that in addition to seeing what a pain-in-the-rear our family members and friends are, we can also see what is good in them, and that is definitely worth fighting for, with forgiveness.