Seeking Revenge?

You’ve probably heard stories of revenge, the rage that fills the person wronged and his commitment to destroy the perpetrator—perhaps many others like the wrong-doer. Even when the settling of scores is complete, the hurt doesn’t go away for the man seeking revenge. In fact, his own crimes have added to the weight he now carries and he can find no peace. That’s how revenge is—a temporary surge of righteous power to carry us through a door we should not enter and from which we will not return as the same person.

It’s not easy to recover from a heinous crime. We must choose to take the higher road, or we will not make that journey; we will take another road, perhaps sorrow-filled, anger-filled or experience a mental breakdown. Or the heavy toll revenge requires.

I’ve used these principles to survive the things that hurt me most:

1-I’ve accepted that we have more than one life, and the law of karma—that everything happens for reasons we may not understand, and that we all choose our lives before we are born, which probably include those experiences that will help us to better understand our human nature and how we made the mistakes we did in our past. We may ‘owe’ the universe’s scales of justice and from the quiet, reflective and wise space between lives, we choose to pay back what we owe, no matter how painful it may be to live through it.

2-The same laws apply to everyone, even the people I love, no matter how I much I may hate what happens to them.

3-That I am responsible for everything in my life, both the good and the bad, the easy and the hard, and that no other person has power over me unless I give it to them. Even if we should die for not relinquishing our power to another, it is our choice to do so, for no one owns us.

Jeez, what a mood I’m in. I’m not even sure why I was thinking about revenge, but here I am, writing about it. I’ve felt the intense desire for revenge, but haven’t gone down that road yet. I hope I never do.


4 thoughts on “Seeking Revenge?

  1. I reckon it’s a very human feeling to want to have revenge, but I’ve not gone down that path for the same reasons you list above. Actually, more often than not, I’ve ended up feeling sorry for those that have wronged me, especially when the universal law of come-uppance caught up with them. I become sad because of the fact that these individuals don’t even KNOW that they are only hurting themselves, especially in the long run. Can’t even think of anyone I’d have vengeful feelings for – all gone.

    • What a testament to Love it is to not choose revenge, to instead work at giving our turmoil to God. It’s a process, not an easy one, but so worthwhile. Thank you, Anita. Love you, Pam

    • Thanks for commenting, Tasneem. It is the way of the wise to let all simply be what it is, without anger or judgment or hopes for revenge. Not so easy to do, though! And I believe you are right, that many people will eventually ask for forgiveness and that we should always give it. Managing anger is important–thanks for the link. Pam B

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