No Handbook for Life

Haven’t we all, at times, wished life was easier? Parents don’t get handbooks with their children, and when our children grow up and leave home, they don’t get handbooks, either. It’s all trial and error, learning on the run. Life is good times and hard times, wins and losses, love and betrayal. We all make dumb choices when we’re young and we can be really grouchy when we get older. So what is the secret to a happy life? Looking at life in general with the bigger picture in mind and not getting caught up in the petty stuff is one aspect of living well. Another is acknowledging that we will experience joy and heartbreak in life, and that we can learn to handle both types of experiences with grace and composure.

We can, of course, be upset all the time, but the upset steals the energy available to us for solving our problems and for spiritual growth, which is why we’re all here. We humans tend to wear blinders which affect what we see, and this incomplete view affects what we believe to be true. We can change the quality of our lives and find fulfillment through finding our soul-purpose, but we must take the blinders off to do so.  

We are born, live our lives and eventually leave physical life, which goes by much faster than we believe it will when we’re young. We probably won’t have figured everything out by the time we cross over, but if we take off the blinders and ask to see with a sense of balance, we will forgive ourselves for our mistakes and the others who have hurt us. Then we will have moved very far along the path to Love’s Home.


6 thoughts on “No Handbook for Life

  1. Parenting is like running full blast at a wall—you see it coming, yes, and you can be upset about it, but there is nothing you can do. Eventually you realize (or not, for some, unfortunately) that what it represents is the child’s eventual departure. You can deny that this upsets you, but that only makes it worse. You must come to accept it, and the inevitable collision with grief. And as for those who take it out on their children, they become grotesque.

    • Hi TOG, Thanks for commenting here. You must’ve read some of my other posts about the apartments we live in. Life is really stressful for a lot of people now and some of them are taking it out on their children. It’s hard all the way around.
      Anyway, you are absolutely right about the parenting and the inevitable collision with the grief wall. I will grieve, probably loudly, but I’ll move on after a bit. I will always miss them, though. I’ll be over to check out your site, too.
      Pam, NAtP

      • Thanks for your comments on my site. By the way, the kids come back. And again. And again. They have a surprising return rate, like T-bills before the crash.

        • I live in a little apartment now so it’s hard for them to bunk here, but we do all crowd for the holidays and it’s like heaven to me. As often as they want to come back, I’ll be happy. Thanks!

  2. I’ve read somewhere that happiness is a choice and I believe it to be so. No matter what happens in life, it’s our choice as to how we wish to react to it. And it helps to continually work at forgiving, loving, being kind and compassionate. And there are times when an explosion of anger actually can clear the air. I’ve also heard it said that life is what you make it and I believe that as well. So I choose to make it a positive learning experience.

    • Thank you, Anita, for adding so much here. You are a worker of Light and Love and have always shown what being kind is about! And fun! You’ve sure showed us fun!
      Love you,

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