Love is the Key

Love is always the answer, isn’t it? Whatever the grievance, the error, the problem, love heals. Love has many names and faces, but given freely and sincerely, it melts the hurts away and lights the way to solutions we might otherwise miss.

Love lives in us, in spite of us and the things we do to ourselves and each other. It emanates from a field of energy around our hearts, if we will let it. The truth is, it is way easier to shut down than open up, especially if we have good reasons for closing down. Abuses–mental, emotional and physical–squish the love in our hearts and then we have to figure out what to do about the dark, lumpy mess that is left. Forgiveness is the answer, and it is a process, one I began with teeny-weeny little steps.

‘Was that a step forward?’ my higher self would ask.

‘Did I ask you?’ I’d say back. ‘It is a step, all right?’

Love is worth working for, because it transforms our lives. It is possible, if I hadn’t had my children, that I would have thrown love or myself away, or tried to anyway. What in your life keeps love alive? If you can’t think of anything, you’ve got some work to do–because life without love is only a shadow-life. Life with love is celebratory, no matter our circumstances. Without love, it is a dark hole.


7 thoughts on “Love is the Key

  1. Love IS the answer. And Forgiveness is the key. Thank you for teaching us to use that key to open the door to a loving life. I really like your 3 columns. Thankyou for letting my blog be connected so lovingly to yours. You are a beautiful spirit, Dear One. Love, Sharie

  2. Very interesting blog. Have you ever read anything by Chris Hedges? I wrote a blog entry about love last November ( which quotes his reflections on love after witnessing the worst depravities as a war reporter. I also agree that forgiveness is key, though I think that to really forgive others people must be able to forgive themselves, just as to love others, there must be self-love — not narcissism, but after all, if one is to love their enemies as themselves, then that is also a call to love oneself!

    • Hi Scott, I hope you don’t mind–I put a link to your blog on mine. Your writing is so insightful, thoughtful, I couldn’t help myself. Life, of course, is not just about thinking–but geez, have we turned our minds off? Thank you for putting your wisdom out there for us to learn from.
      And thanks for commenting on my blog; I really appreciate that. It seems a little lonely sometimes–I had hoped to get some dialogue going, but maybe that’s not the way it works. Anyway, I haven’t heard of Chris Hedges and I will follow your link and see what else I can find. Love and forgiveness and tolerance–I do worry about the world–in my mind are keys to living in peace, with ourselves and each other. And, yes (I could teach this, I’ve wasted so much life force on guilt) forgiveness of ourselves must come first and after it does, everything else flows from it. Take care. Pam

      • I saw your comment on my blog (thanks!) but the link to yours didn’t work, so it took me awhile to actually decide to type it in and find it. I’ve also put a link to your blog too. Hedges has some really powerful books. A number of theme reflect his war experience, all deal with ethics and values. “Losing Moses on the Freeway” was an intriguing look at his life (he was a Divinity student at Harvard before going into reporting), and how he believes the 10 Commandments have core values valid for at least three major religions, and yet our modern lifestyle has degraded them.

        He is hated by some on the far right, and many Christian conservatives (he had a book basically claiming many of them acted more like fascists than real Christians), but one gets a sense of a strong and clear moral vision in his writing — his work been part of the inspiration of how I approach my work and research. Anyway, I look forward to reading through your blog!

  3. Hi Scott, I got to read your posting called Love. Being willing to look within at ourselves is so important in personal growth–what a deep thinker and great writer you are. I’ll have to find a copy of Chris Hedges’ books; just the one paragraph you quoted in your essay is so moving. Profound, actually, that a person could end a book about the atrocities of war with a note on love. I especially loved that love transcends even our own lives, that it’s much bigger than any of us as individuals. Isn’t that amazing? Take care, and I must say, I am proud to be linked at your blog!

  4. There is no darkness, only absence of light, just as there are no negative emotions, just the absence of love. Absdence of love creates fear. The necessity ofor forgiveness is for our own spiritual growth and cleansing – it has nothing to do with the offender. Love cannot fail and will always prevail.

    • Yes, forgiveness is for our own spiritual growth and cleansing, but I believe forgiveness lifts all parties involved and, as you say, lights a candle in the darkness. Thank you for your comments! I so appreciate them.

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